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Dec. 18th, 2010 @ 01:03 pm Guilt Trips by my Family
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Date:December 19th, 2010 05:46 pm (UTC)
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We've talked a lot about what's not working, this holiday season. Perhaps we can also share what positive nurturing customs we have developed with out families of choice. I go to the local thrift shops and look for one unique special ornament to remind me of the year, or I make one. This year, I found a rainbow colored disco ball. I know this is a small thing. Yet it gives my housemate and me some smiles. And feeling good is what the holidays are meant to be about, so it is getting back to more of the actual spirit of things. Friends and I drive around town one night to look at the Christmas lights. I make wreaths myself, and hang them up in the living room. I make silly tinsel decorations for the evergreen bush beside the front door. I go to my hometown Christmas parade, and wave to friends who are on the floats or marching in one of the groups. I choose my own
holiday menu that suits my specific food tastes. I give holiday cards to my friends, the vendors at the Farmer's Market. I get online and talk with my grandson by choice Tamoso, as he prepares for exams, in Bangladesh.

I do things that connect me to the holiday season in new and nurturing ways.

Others who are building families by choice, what customs are you all creating? Perhaps by sharing, we can help each other reconnect to this season in good ways.